Promises to the Sisterhood

02.8.09

I’m a blogger, I’m not a citizen journalist, and I make no claims that I’m fair, balanced, thoughtful or even correct every day.

I can offer you honesty.
Not everyone is prepared for honesty, it’s not always pretty.

Since it looks like the info will be leaked soon anyhow, I’ll let you know that I’ve partenered with someone much smarter than myself, and we’ll be launching a new business in the next few weeks days.

Since a friend is going to be at Mom 2.0 we wanted to bring her up to speed, and we also wanted to enjoy her company for a little lunch on Friday. There was another lady who we invited to join us, and I’m still not 100% sure why. I can tell you this.

She texted during our lunch.
So. Tacky.

It gets worse. She was texting my friend’s ex husband, and telling him that we were talking about him. How do I know this? Uh, she came home to crazy phone calls from her ex husband who was irate. Had we been talking about him, he would have been right.

There are children involved. Don’t cross that line. This hideous woman should have declined the lunch invititation, but she didn’t. She sat quietly listening to us talk about our new venture, and then broke every rule of common decency. She works in viral marketing.

Call me syphillis.

My promises to you, my readers, are limited, but they are promises I know I can keep:

  • I will never pretend to be your friend when I am not
  • I will never tell you that I like a product/person/concept that I do not
  • I will never pretend to be an expert, I will instead refer you to one
  • I will never insert myself into your family life
  • I will continue to mock my mother, in hopes that one day I will be just like her
  • I will continue to write, and I encourage you to do the same
  • I will be honest, even if it means telling you that those jeans do make your ass look fat
  • I will listen, and I will observe, I’ll share with you what I see and hear
  • I will continue to surround myself with people who are smarter than I am, hopefully I will make introductions that are meaningful.

I won’t be texting your ex.
I wouldn’t do that to your kids.

  • http://anniegirl1138.wordpress.com annie

    That was so low. But I am too old now to be shocked by the things women do to other women. When I was young, it puzzled me to no end and though I still don’t get it, I am seldom surprised when I hear about things like this and thankfully I am only very rarely the recipient (because I don’t have a lot of friends but that is an entirely different matter).

    Remind me to never ask you how I look in an outfit. My ass is fat but I don’t really like hearing about it.

  • http://immoralmatriarch.com Maria

    Wow. WOW. I love that you called her out on Twitter. I’ve always admired your balls.

  • http://www.lolitacarrico.com/blog Lolita

    Shady. Low. Creepy. Liar. There are so many words.

    And, we didn’t even invite her…it was HER idea in the first place to meet. Which makes it that much worse.

    I love that you called her out.

  • http://www.mooreganics.mionegroup.com Laura

    Good for you for standing up for the sisterhood! I always love an honest opinion…especially when it is something I NEED to hear and not being told what I WANT to hear. Nope it isn’t always comfortable, but it is that honestly that keeps people coming back for more.

  • http://www.busydadblog.com BusyDad

    There are usually two sides to every story. But there are exceptions, like in this case. I cannot fathom why she would do such a thing. It’s low down.

    It’s OK to dislike someone. But you don’t go out to lunch with them under false pretenses.

    It’s OK to think “the jury is still out on you” and give it an honest shot. But you don’t go sabotaging that person halfway through your first meeting.

    I like to think the best of people and give them the benefit of the doubt, but I’m struggling here. I really am.

  • http://www.gourmetworrier.com/ MsGourmet

    for a Jewish girl you have a strong Australian ‘no bullshit’ attitude – i like it a lot! Just remind me to never wear jeans if we happen to have lunch ;o)

  • http://www.houseofprince.blogspot.com KTP

    Not going to make it to Mom 2.0, but need an honest friend to help me shop for clothes for BlogHer. After tennis one day?

    I have to admit I am confused by this post. Invited, not invited, on twitter or not, the lady who did the feral texting can #suckit, but I still don’t get who it was.

  • http://www.accidental-momfluential.blogspot.com Ciaran

    You know how you issue all those warnings and lectures to your kids, and friends who do online dating about all the cyber weirdos and creeps out there? But I never really think that way about other moms/bloggers *I* meet online. At least I didn’t before.

    I’ve met hundreds of mompreneurs and bloggers, crafters and adoptive parents like me through online groups, chats, twitter, etc. dozens of exceptional and interesting moms online. Creative, quirky, gloriously eccentric & diverse women. I didn’t love all of them, but I considered them all benign and felt pretty safe in “our world”. Until this. I’ve never before met anyone who would have qualified as the the cyber creep of my own cautionary tales. How terrible that it would be a mom! My mind still boggles as to what the motivation for doing this sort of strange thing might be? Considering myself schooled and a little less naive. Sad.

  • http://mskatee.blogspot.com Katee

    How rude! Texting during lunch ?!

  • http://punditmom1.blogspot.com PunditMom

    You’ve got me wondering what’s up next! And we need to talk about that idea we “tweeted” about the other day!

  • http://justmiss.wordpress.com Miss

    As another mother who is going through a divorce, I know that it’s hard enough to deal with the ex as it is. For another person, another person who has shown fake kindness to me to turn around and communicate with my ex, WHILE WE SHARED A TABLE, is the ultimate betrayal. No matter the friendship, or lack of, between these two women, this is just something that decent human beings DO NOT DO.

    It wasn’t my fight Jessica, so I THANK YOU for standing up for our friend and her children. She’s a decent person and her boys are wonderful little men, and none of them deserved this treatment.

  • http://formerlyaprildawn.blogspot.com April

    Tacky indeed!

  • http://www.socalmom.net Donna

    So sorry to hear what this person did. Tacky, indeed. Looking forward to hearing more about your new venture :)

  • http://www.veepveep.com Veep Veep

    Awful! Beyond awful.

    P.S. Where are you when I go shopping for a new pair of jeans??? lol

  • pajamama

    Looking forward to hearing you on air!

  • http://betseybooms.blogspot.com Betsey

    Is there such a thing as a crush back?

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