Comments on: In Defense of Skanky Little Girls

By: Kat @ iHeart7.com

Kat @ iHeart7.com — Mon, 13 May 2013 19:35:00 +0000

That “what was she wearing” question ties right into the way our society believes as a whole… if a girl does ANYTHING to make a boy even halfway turn his attention to sex (as though the attention of a male is ever actually turned entirely away from sex), then she deserves what she gets, whether it’s slight disrespect or rape or anything in between. There always has to be something SHE did to force HIM to force himself into her personal space in some capacity. That makes me sick. Men are not animals – they are thinking individuals with the capability to be rational and someone “provoking” them should be completely irrelevant. If you can’t control your urges then you really should be locked up.

It is just like how people say that a well-known whore (or even a prostitute for the sake of argument) gives it up to just about anybody all the time — for money or for free — so if someone rapes her, it shouldn’t be a big deal. That’s what she gets for making that kind of reputation for herself. What have we come to where our humanity has become so thinly applied to the overall perspective that we believe a woman has no right to dictate who penetrates her body? Poor guy, he didn’t know any better – he just thought she liked it rough. All those times she yelled “no” … well he just misunderstood because OBVIOUSLY she meant yes. …

Girls are taught by example from a very young age to just take whatever guys throw at them. Don’t make yourself more of a target by speaking out. Fly under the radar. Let them say what they will… and know that if you have ANY sexuality about yourself, you are just asking to be disrespected – or violated. Like you, I do believe that girls need to be taught MORE to stand up for themselves and to demand to be respected and to be treated in an age-appropriate manner, especially by ADULTS who should know better, yet so often do not.

I have a 13 year old daughter and she has looked older than she is by at least a couple of years since she was 11… she and I are the exactly same size and shape… she has curves and her bra size is larger than MINE. She dresses appropriately, but I mean, you can’t hide her body no matter what she wears and based on her development at 13, it is scary to know there are men out there who would take advantage of a child that young… that so many of them do not stop to think COULD THIS YOUNG LADY BE YOUNGER THAN SHE LOOKS??

I thankfully haven’t dealt with a lot of inappropriateness from older men but once, we were in a grocery store when a guy at least my age (I was 29 at the time) stopped and literally turned his head to the side to look at her butt while she was standing away from me with her friend picking out candy! I walked over and just about smacked him but he sort of straightened up when he was I was walked directly toward him. I asked him if I could help him find something in my PRETEEN DAUGHTER’S ASS and he sheepishly took off.

Now, if a woman is dressed extremely provocatively, I think that it is understandable for men to assume that she wants the attention… but that still does not extend itself into the “she deserves to be violated” territory. Say what you will, flirt if you must but a woman is still the owner of her own body whether she’s naked or in sweats and if she expresses that your advances are unwanted, move on. And men should use the same rule of thumb that gas station attendants use — if she looks younger than 27 years old, you ask for ID before proceeding. Period.

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Kat Robertson, http://www.iHeart7.com

By: JessicaGottlieb

JessicaGottlieb — Fri, 31 Aug 2012 21:10:00 +0000

I’m really sorry that happened to you.

By: CC

CC — Fri, 31 Aug 2012 20:57:00 +0000

Eeeew! I’m going to get as crude as you are, so strap in folks. You are a wretch & a troll! However, no matter what sort of rock you’ve crawled out below from, how DARE you say that those over 18 who claim they’ve been sexually assualted/raped are lying? I was raped at 14 & left for dead after having my throat cut by someone who may still be walking the streets as a free man. I was wearing my school uniform, with a skirt that was 3 inches below the knee, a long sleeved Oxford blouse, a vest & a blazer, perhaps it was the blue knee socks or the penny loafers that “enticed” the scumbucket thug who waited around the corner from the bus stop. Do you think I should have gotten juvenile detention for dressing so enticingly? I will bet you are a young male posing as a money grubbing, 18 yr old whore because there’s no possible way a 34 yr old man, unless he is married & biding his time for a side slut, to wait 3 yrs “until you were legal.” So much of what you said is disgusting & foolish. When the day comes that you are raising a daughter (please Lord, don’t let this thing reproduce) & you see the sort of disgusting things happening to her which you claim to be all the things you like, remember this reply to your sad & ridiculous trolling. Wihing brain cancer on you for your ridiculous & obviously false (unless you are seriously mentally deficient/disturbed) wouldn’t be awful enough. Shame on you & the awful lies you’ve written!

By: LBJ

LBJ — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 17:38:00 +0000

if a person gets rejected they might lash out to restore their ego. its not about power. women do it too. they will call men gay and all sorts of things if they dont like what the girl is doing.

By: LBJ

LBJ — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 17:36:00 +0000

i am biologically wired to look (not stare like an idiot) at breasts and bums etc. men are visual. and ive never flirted with a girl because of people like you who would call me sexist. thank goodness for pornography.

By: Welcome to the Twilight Zone

Welcome to the Twilight Zone — Tue, 29 May 2012 05:23:14 +0000

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By: Mia M

Mia M — Tue, 10 Apr 2012 09:42:00 +0000

This is ridiculous, the way you dress does matter. If you don’t want to be looked at then you should wear something more modest, that’s what my mother always told me. I’m not saying an older man should look at young girls but these girls need to dress their age. These young girls are not as naive as many people think they are. I’m almost 20 and have had the same body since I was about 13 except for maybe I’m a little taller now but I’ve always had the figure of a woman and I have been looked at and talked to frequently since I was young. I also had the maturity of a woman, when an older man would come and talk to me I wouldn’t giggle and act silly, I’d tell him how old I was and tell him to get lost. I have been attracted to older men for a long time and have been dating my boyfriend since I was 18, he is 16 years older than I am, however I met him when I was 15 and caught his attention right away and I liked him immediately but we both made the decision that nothing could happen until I was of age. When I turned 18 I called him right away and we’ve been together since, the point of this story is young girls DO have the mind capacity to make good decisions but most do not want to or do not try to. I think MOST girls over the age of 13 that claim they have been sexually assaulted are usually lying, they just don’t want their parents to find out how nasty they are, so these men are getting crazy amounts of time in prison when nothing happens to the girl. I think the girl should get some kind of juvenile detention because she most likely made the man think she liked him because usually she has been talking to the guy for quite a while which is equally as wrong because she should have just ignored him. I’m obviously not talking about girls that are abducted off the street but when girls meet guys online or meet older boys at parties then they should have enough sense to not put themselves in dangerous situations or situations that they do not want to be in.

By: Turb0mx

Turb0mx — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 05:20:00 +0000

A twelve year old girl looks like a twelve year old boy in my opinion.
So the man was probably dumbfounded with how absurd she looked

By: RJ

RJ — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 14:26:00 +0000

EXACTLY! I’m a teenage girl and I can’t go anywhere without teenage boys and men leering at me and staring at me! (and I don’t have big breasts) Although I will admit that people have told me I could pass for a college student even though I’m in high school.

Personally, I don’t get what the attraction is. I don’t dress like a skank. I live in loose jeans and t-shirts. And if I’m dressing up I’m in a knee-length cute dress or skirt and blouse. I dress like a good girl.

You are SO right. It doesn’t matter what you wear guys still shouldn’t leer at you. I hate being stared and whistled at. It disgusts me that men and boys view me as a sex object instead of a regular teenage girl. Friends have told me that I’m “lucky” to have a great body and to get the attention from guys, but I don’t like it. And I don’t consider myself lucky. Being followed by teenage boys and having older pervs stare at my but and then whistle at me ISN’T fun.

By: Kenda

Kenda — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 17:00:00 +0000

I don’t have a daughter – I have two boys. So I’ll bypass the topic of teens and just comment on the subject of adults. I’m also NOT talking about rape – we all know that is a completely different situation and motivation.

While I agree there are people who assert themselves in a sexual manner to feel socially dominant – it is done by both men and women. I’ve seen it both ways. It’s a personality (and insecurity) that goes beyond gender. If it is a man, I don’t agree that his being overt automatically means he’s trying to degrade the other person. Sometimes it’s simply the fact that people forget that the opposite sex doesn’t always want to be approached the same way they do. Many men like an assertive female when it comes to flirtation – so they try the same tactic. Yes, it can be arrogant and even disrespectful…but that isn’t the same as predatory.