The moment when you’ve been diagnosed with RA can last an eternity. You’re sitting in a rheumatologist’s office and the doctor is explaining to you what Rheumatoid Arthritis is, and probably what it was. Because what RA is and what RA was are two separate things.
Sitting in the waiting room can be a terrifying experience. Elderly men and women in wheelchairs, on walkers or sporting canes, gnarled hands and shuffling feet. RA was a different disease 15 years ago. It was a different disease 50 years ago. When your doctor tells you that you have RA he or she is probably also telling you that what you see in the waiting room is not your future. You are unlikely to hear that so I’m going to tell you now: Disease modifying drugs have changed what it means to have RA. Don’t panic. There’s a good chance you and I will keep all our original joints.
Immeditatly upon leaving the doctor’s office call your mother and complain to her. RA has a genetic component so either your mother passed it down to you or she picked the man who did. Either way mothers are easy to guilt and if you call her whiny the odds are pretty good she’ll come and cook you dinner or send you gifts. You’ll need that dinner cooked too because at the time of diagnosis the odds are good that you’re in a lot of pain, have fatigue or both.
Something that no one told me about the day you get diagnosed with RA is that it’s quite likely the worst day you’ll ever have. If you have a good doctor (and if you have to beg, borrow, steal or max out credit cards to get a good doctor I recommend it) this should be day one of the upswing. You’re likely to leave the office with anti inflammatories, possibly pain relievers, possibly steroids (short term don’t panic) and a fist full of paperwork including referrals to specialists.
When you go check Dr. Google you’ll land on the NIH website and see this image.
In fact you’ve probably seen images like this one at your rheumatologist’s office. Maybe even people with hands and feet like these in the waiting room. You are not necessarily looking at your future. Biologics have changed the way the disease progresses but they’re a new class of drugs so the folks whose disease was active 20 years ago couldn’t have the benefit of disease modifying biologics.
Don’t bother telling people you have rheumatoid arthritis. They’ll start telling you about their bum knee from high school tennis and you’ll want to punch them but that would hurt your hand. Or they’ll mention something about getting old… again… punching people when you have RA is really painful so just don’t mention it to folks that will never understand.
Do bring your spouse, sibling or close friend with you for at least one of the initial appointments. There’s a lot of information that the doctor will be giving you and it’s easy to get confused particularly when you’re in pain.
Do get an RA notebook. Bring it to every appointment and take notes. Again, being in pain makes it tough to keep track of things and you’ll be pelted with information that you’ll need later. Make sure to date the pages on it so that you can keep track of progress, what works and what doesn’t. A sturdy notebook goes a long way.
Don’t take advice from anyone who hasn’t been to medical school. You will get calls and emails from friends letting you know about alternative therapies: everything from juice fasts to liquid silver and elimination diets. Although a good diet can be helpful and complementary therapies like acupuncture, diet and floating have helped me a lot they are no substitute for medical intervention. Alternative therapy = bad. Complementary treatments = good. It’s more than semantics kids. We’re trying to be healthy here.
Do get a second opinion. Even if two doctors tell you exactly the same thing it will have been time and money well spent. Remember it’s the art and science of medicine. Not all physicians are created equal.
Do pick an office that feels right to you. I visited three rheumatologists in the beginning and ended up staying with the doctor whose office was always on time (which also means that if you run late you will lose your appointment and have to pay for it) and where the doctor writes long and complete reports after each appointment. He speaks to me and then repeats everything into a voice recorder and it’s entered into my records. Other specialists seemed a little warmer but less organized. This was the right office for me and if you’re in the Santa Monica area I’d be happy to privately share his information with you. You’re going to spend a lot of time with your rheumatologist until the disease is controlled. Find the right person to be your partner.
Don’t go on message boards. Think about it: when do you talk about RA? I talk about it when I’m hurting, when I’m pissed that I’ll never run another marathon and when insurance is acting screwy. I don’t talk about RA when I’m feeling good. I all but forget that I even have it on good days. You’ll read about people having adverse reactions, fear of wheelchairs, depression (it comes with chronic pain) and job loss. Skip it when you’re feeling down.
Do continue moving. If you have access to a pool just get in it and walk on bad days. On good days exercise until you feel pain. Not muscle pain, when you feel that you can keep going but the second you feel joint pain stop. Joints aren’t like muscles, we can’t train them to go farther, work harder or get stronger. When your joints hurt do listen to them. Stop what you’re doing, apply some ice and be gentler to yourself the next day. We’re running a new kind of marathon here.
Don’t be a martyr, when you have pain slow down. Living in chronic pain will make you cloudy. Be careful with Tylenol (acetaminophen). Your doctor will talk to you about never taking acetaminophen when you’re drinking (not even a little bit) because it’s affects on your liver can be disastrous. Your doctor will talk to you about ibuprofen, naproxen or prescriptions like Celebrex. I don’t want to give medical advice, they all have their pros and cons. All I know is that acetaminophen is far from benign and people with Rheumatoid Arthritis take a lot of pills. This is why you need your RA notebook. You will get a lot of information from your specialists.
Don’t panic about pricing if you have private (non government) insurance. Almost every medicine on the market that doesn’t have a generic equivalent will have cost support program. If you’re taking Humira you can pay as little as $5 a month, Enbrel is free for 6 months and then maxes out at $10 a month thereafter and Simponi is $5 a month. Most branded medicines in the US have cost support, here’s Lunesta for free if you have private insurance (which would still leave you paying an awful lot). It’s expensive having a chronic disease. Take advantage of programs like these. Enrollment takes minutes, sometimes just seconds.
Don’t give up. Getting a diagnosis of Rheumatoid Arthritis is possibly the worst thing that’s ever happened to you. The fear of it is worse than the reality. The reality of RA is that you can be out of pain (or mostly out of pain) and live a pretty normal life. It’s shocking and it’s scary and it’s creepy to imagine that your body is attacking itself but it doesn’t have to stop you in your tracks. It might slow you down but only temporarily.