How do You Talk About Your Help? How do You Talk to Them?

When my husband leaves for work at 6.45am and returns home at 10.30pm I do not tell him how tired I am. I make him a plate and sit with him to keep him company if he looks like he needs company or give him time alone if I suspect that’s what he needs. As a rule his office days are much longer and more taxing than mine but the endless cooking, cleaning, driving and organizing is a job too. I work two jobs, one begins at 3pm when the …

The Saddest Story Ever Told

My housekeeper and I have a strange relationship. I fire her, she refuses to leave. She misses a day for something totally legitimate like a doctor’s appointment or a school meeting and I feel abandoned and freak out that the house won’t be clean on schedule or ever again. We share each other’s joys and commiserate when times are tough. It’s an odd relationship, because of the balance of power (she seems to have all the power) it has to be. My housekeeper brings her own lunch. She neatly packages …