In Other News I am an Asshole

Recently I was at an event for PBS. I was sitting at a table with some friends, and my friend Ana Flores came to join us. Ana is a Latina woman whose husband I have never met. Trust me, this detail matters. Anna came to the table with a man who was a bit older than she, somewhat paunchy, but also clearly Latino. They both greeted my friends as old friends and I assumed this was her husband. He introduced himself as Jose. I shook his hand and maintained total …