Sen. Roy Ashburn Pisses Off My Mom


I got an email about a nanosecond ago. This is the subject line


The email is from my mom, and included no text, just a link to this story.

An anti-gay California state senator was placed under arrest for drunk driving after leaving a gay bar. A male passenger was in the vehicle along with the lawmaker was not arrested, reported Sacramento CBS affiliate Channel 13.

State Sen. Roy Ashburn was pulled over by the California Highway Patrol at about 2:00 a.m. on March 3 when his state-issued vehicle was observed being driven erratically. The driver, identified as Ashburn, was taken in and charged for driving under the influence. Channel 13 reported that unidentified sources said the senator had been at Faces, a popular gay nightspot, prior to his arrest.

You can read the whole story here.

Friday Confession: I Lied And I’d Do It Again


I lied to a group of people for a prolonged period of time. I knew I was lying, many of them knew I was lying, and I would do it again.

It was the right thing to do. I am a liar.

In December of 2006 my friends and I told the hospital staff that I was the AIDS patient’s sister. We did so because his partner of 14 years had no legal rights without waving a sheet of paper in front of their faces every time he opened his mouth.

I am a liar. My Steven has been dead for two and a half years. For some reason I miss him terribly today.

I’d lie for him any day, but if California repeals Prop 8 you might make it easier on someone else.

Why I blog


I know this blog sort of looks like it came out of nowhere. It didn’t.

I’m not new to blogging, to social media, to influencing; I’m just newly putting my real name out there.

The reason I started blogging was because of gay rights. I’m not gay, I don’t have anyone in my family who is gay, and I don’t have any close gay friends who are still alive.

The reason I started blogging is because when my dearest love, my Steven, succumbed to AIDS his life partner of 14 years had no rights. I had to pretend I was his sister to get him the care he needed and was entitled to. It was wrong that they needed me, Steven’s homosexuality made him a second class citizen legally.

If you think that Prop 8 is about a wedding, you are sadly mistaken. Prop 8 is about stripping people of their rights to health care, childcare, family, travel and finance. Prop 8 is about the worst sort of hatred and fear.

I know these are hard times for California, but this matters. A lot.

Please watch the video and embed it on your site.

“Fidelity”: Don’t Divorce… from Courage Campaign on Vimeo.

Please make me stop being ashamed of being from California.