I am a feminist. Recently that declaration has been called into question. I am a feminist from my earliest moments as my mother’s daughter right up to the moment I decided to become my daughter’s mother. It is appalling to me that there is such divisiveness between women.
I am a feminist because I am pro-life. I am a feminist because I do not believe that abortion is the right choice for me, and I pray it’s a choice my daughter never has to make. I am a feminist because there is nothing I wouldn’t do for my children. I am a feminist because I chose to stay home with my children. My world is uniquely feminine, I am surrounded by strong women with deep convictions and resounding voices.
I am a feminist and I am different than you.
I am a pro-life feminist who is pro-choice. I will stand by your side and support your right to have an early term abortion. I will fight for you to maintain the right to a late term abortion when your life is in jeopardy. I will scream and shout and yell so that no woman ever dies from a botched abortion again.
To drive abortions underground would be an unspeakable horror. I would pause my life and my lifestyle in order to keep us all safe.
I am a pro-life, pro-choice feminist who will beg you to give your unwanted child up for adoption. I will rally ’round you and help you find good pre-natal care. I will stand by your side when you are choosing the adoptive family. I will defend your choice of adoption as the best possible choice. I will call you a hero, so will your child.
I am not sitting on a fence. I can not support abortion as a means of birth control, nor will I sit silent and pretend that it’s a good decision. I won’t stop being your friend, but I can’t be the one you come to when you need support or a drive to the abortion clinic.
There are horrendous people in the GOP. There are complete asshats with the Dems. Both sides of the aisle are populated with narcissists, liars and manipulators. Both sides have some remarkable men and women who are altruistic, and serve us all quietly and efficiently. I can’t defend every Republican statement ever made, and this group is sometimes asking me to, because I am in such a minority.
I will tell you this. I’m a mother. I’m a feminist. I’m deeply offended by the perception that I can’t be a free thinking Registered Republican and a feminist. I will not be voting for Palin because she’s a woman. I would never assume that you’d vote for Hilary for the same reason. We’re not voting for Mommy and Daddy. We’re looking for President and Vice President. I urge you all to not allow the mainstream media dumb it down.
I assure you, that is not why my mother burned her bra.
Jessica Gottlieb is raising two children in Los Angeles, and she writes about it at her blog. This is an original post to the Los Angeles Moms Blog.