Momversation: Do You Make Your Kids Hug?

This week at Momversation Karen asks, “do you make your kids hug your adult friends?” Asha, Mindy and I do not agree with each other on this one.

Well? Do you? I’m sure no one is surprised to find out that I do not. We’ve talked about this a little bit before, in fact, I don’t even care if my kids are rude to strangers. Nope. Really, don’t care one iota.

I really want to know what you think about it. I remember having to hug Aunts and Uncles and they were horrible and old and smelly… come to think of it, I’m not even sure they were aunts or uncles.

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Manhattan Beach And Momversation

This week on Momversation Asha, Karen, Maggie and I got to talk about sexual abuse. Yeah, lucky us.

I can’t just present this video to you without some back story. I grew up in Manhattan Beach, Califrornia. In 1974 my mother took me to The McMartin Preschool for an interview. Something dropped or broke (that I don’t recall) and I said, “oh shit”. My brother and I were not accepted into Manhattan Beach’s best school, and instead we went to the co-op nursery school.

The Manhattan Beach of my youth was a very small town.

In 1983 and 1984 my friends were questioned about abuse. There were dolls, and police, neighbors’ yards were dug up. Every parent who ever buried a pet rabbit was worried, and McMartin was whispered everywhere. My neighbor was two years younger than I, in the weeks between her “interviews” she pulled out all her eyelashes. She was twelve.

Ultimately the McMartin’s were convicted, parts were overturned, some were dismissed, and everyone’s lives were ruined. The entire South Bay lived under a shroud.

Right now the town of Lewes, Delaware will experience the same issues my hometown did. Every time you look at a child of a certain age, you’ll think, am I allowed to touch him/her… hug, handshake, wave? In addition to the unspeakable pain of the children and parents directly involved, Dr. Earl Bradley raped his hometown. He stole their ability to trust, even if he didn’t touch their children.

With that, I present to you, this week’s Momversation.

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