I Would Like to Talk About My Weight

I would like to talk about my weight so that you, my friends and family, can have permission to stop. I know you mean well but, “You’ve lost weight” is only slightly kinder than, “Oh My God you’re skinny.” Which I’m not. But sadly, it’s what I’m hearing a lot of lately. I’m not here to chastise, but to save relationships because this annoys me, and I’m certain that for others it’s a crushing enough experience that they’re avoiding people who previously had been considered friends. For the record, I …

Fearful and Aggrieved – the Keynote that Wasn’t

Everyone has a bad day at the office. Sometimes a project isn’t perfect, sometimes it’s dead wrong. Every so often things are imperfect and you feel like a failure even though others see only a misstep or maybe two. People are generally kind, so sometimes they will deny they even saw a misstep. I failed spectacularly in front of 500 people and I’m not sure they knew it, but I did. And that’s what matters to me. I was to give a keynote and I left out a chapter. The …

Restaurant Tickets and Hidden Messages

It’s been many years since I’ve worked in a restaurant, but the eight years I spent carrying plates and trays makes it impossible for me to tip mindlessly. I examine all charges on a restaurant ticket, not because I’m busy being frugal. Quite the opposite. Oftentimes a lunch tab will give a diner an interesting profile of the owner’s values – my most recent ticket was the nail in the coffin for me. We have a local breakfast and lunch place that I was never crazy about, but that Mr. …