Do Something Scary

Last night I went to an event where I knew no one. I guess technically I knew the host, but I didn’t know him to the point where I’d leave the house to spend hours with him talking about nothing.

I figured I’d go to the event and surely there would be someone there that I knew. Los Angeles is a small town.

I pulled up to the address and gasped a little. Twenty or so years ago I almost married someone there. The Swede, it was a close call but thanks to my Grandfather it’s the wedding that never happened.

So I entered the party a little rattled but ready to put my best foot forward. After the scanning the crowd I realized I knew no one and I decided that this wasn’t going to be like a regular LA event where you show up and have drinks with people you already know and leave having met no one. I completely barged in on a conversation that three women were having.

“I’m going to go ahead and introduce myself. I’m Jessica.” And I extended my hand.

It felt like 852 years passed before smiles crossed everyone’s faces, but they did. And it was great. I met three amazing women and a man. A makeup artist, a German writer, an interior designer and one who never talked about her work. They were smart and they were funny and my circle of friends just got larger.

It was terrifying and I’m going to continue to terrify myself otherwise it’s just not worth leaving the house.

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  1. I really love this, Jessica. If there’s one thing that scares the shit out of me, it’s walking into a room of strangers, let alone actually approaching someone and introducing myself. 

    • Me too.

      Probably everyone is scared of it. That’s why it’s worth doing.

    • I didn’t really explain who I was. I just asked about them. I told them I’m a blogger but no one really asks much about that.

      • Yeah, but you’re more than “just a blogger”. You’ve met Oprah for cheese sake. Doesn’t it feel like 2 lives sometimes? The infamous Jessica Gottlieb that goes on CNN and HSN and meets Oprah and gets invited to see the Aurora Borealis and where ever else you’ve traveled to and then there’s the Jessica Gottlieb that doesn’t try to explain that to the fancy people at the party that she doesn’t know?  

        • Oh I just assume that everyone there was accomplished.

          The interior decorator designed a hotel in Dubai and the writer does celebrity interviews.

          • Ok. But you have to admit that it IS like living 2 different lives sometimes inside the “just blogging” world. If you go to a blogger event, or an event that has a lot of bloggers attending-people know who Jessica Gottlieb is. You need no introduction. Then the next day you could go to your neighbors Tupperware party and not a damn person knows who you are. That’s weird to you right? It’s weird to me. And I haven’t even met Oprah. 

          • Yeah, it’s still weirder to be known than anything.

  2. I did that yesterday morning! It was terrifying for a bit, and then I met some pretty amazing people.

    I’m glad you took that step out :)

  3. The Swede- now that sounds like a story.

  4. This was my experience at MOM 2.0 Summit…”nothing ventured nothing gained” a trite but true comment of my grandmother’s

  5. Introducing myself to a room full of people I don’t know is a level of Dante’s Hell for me. Glad to know others are terrified too!

  6. This is something I’ve had to do over and over trying to make friends in my neighborhood.
    I’m glad it worked out- it’s been over 6 months and I still have no mom friends here.

    • Those mom circles are tough to crack. I don’t find that to be an easy group.
      Maybe some readers have suggestions.

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